Having now put to bed any and all glamorously noir Witness Protection rumors that my suspicious name change and mysterious departure from San Francisco might well have occasioned, it’s time I address what may strike some of you as the greater mystery—how this former city girl fell head over heels for the small-town country charms of Friendsville, Tennessee.
To understand why this might come as a surprise to some (myself included), I’m afraid a confession of sorts is in order. Not surprisingly—this being a confession and all—it’s something I’m not proud of and which grieves me now to admit. But fess up to it I must, for a misperception as wrong-headed as mine demands nothing less than a bold-faced, front-page retraction. So let me begin by saying: “My name is Tess Anderson… and I’m a recovering Blue-State-Snobaholic.” (to any of my Tennessee friends reading this, I warned you it was some ugly stuff…)
Yes, eager as I was to return to the family nest for a spell, how much happier I thought I’d be if that nest were perched somewhere on the Upper East Side. That instead it was nestled amidst the foothills of rural Tennessee had me convinced this could never be anything more than a temporary move, a pleasant place to gather the thoughts and spend some quality time with the folks before embarking on another of my big-city, bright-lights adventures. For what kind of life could a thirty-something single girl possibly have in a place as far removed from the madding crowds as Friendsville, TN?
Turns out, quite a rich and rewarding one indeed. Yet in those final days back in San Francisco, when I’d pause amidst the packing to contemplate my life here, the visions I conjured resembled nothing so much as the outtakes of such Southern-skewering films as Religulous and Super-Size Me. In other words, my imaginings were penciled in with all the usual redneck and Bible-belt clichés. Consequently, when my thoughts turned in earnest to what lie ahead for me here in Tennessee, I was no better than Simon Cowell eyeing Susan Boyle for the first time. Not only did I presume to know what to expect, I was convinced it wasn’t for me, poised and all too ready to shout “next!” Yet just as that now famous Scottish songbird fast melted Simon’s heart, so has Tennessee won mine.
I confess it was the creature comforts that first seduced me. To name but a few:
- The opportunity to live in a 5,000 square foot house with a two-car garage, central vac, dishwasher, and washer & dryer.
- The freedom to crank up the stereo as loud as I want and warble along at the top of my lungs without fear of disturbing the neighbors.
- The old-fashioned luxury of nipping down to the stables anytime of day for a brisk and invigorating horseback ride
- The simple joy of stepping out into the garden every morning for a fresh-cut bouquet of lilies and lavender (estimated price at Whole Foods? $17.99. The price here? $0. The pleasure of picking them yourself? Priceless…)
Of course, I recognize that all of these delights can be found in the Bay Area, too. But do note I said “found” and not “afforded.” I mean, save for the in-home appliances I catalogue above, you’d need some serious Google millions to replicate the kind of gauzy pastoral setting I enjoy here in the environs of, say, Marin, Danville, or Atherton. Though to play fair, it’s not like I’m getting to enjoy where I live now for what it cost me to live in that rundown, appliance-challenged studio back in SF.
No, the improbably luxe amenities I now enjoy are but the spoils of a crime I committed after crossing the TN state line. Embezzlement? No, but you’re close. (it is, after all, a predominantly white-color offense, the minimum sentence of which is most often served in a kind of country-club style imprisonment…) Yes, you in the back…Bingo! That’s right, I committed that great crime against normality known as moving back in with Mom and Dad.
So as you can see, when it comes to weighing the merits of here vs. there, this whole living-with-the-folks thing does rather skew the data. That’s why, were you to ask me which place I like better, I’d have to beg the fifth. Ask me to muse on some of the differences, though, and I’m more than happy to bend your ear. Which I plan to do over the next few blog entries, should you wish to listen in. For the very plethora of polarities inherent in a move such as mine—from Blue State to Red, from big-city-life to a small-town country one, from a predominantly secular culture to a bright-eyed, unapologetically Christian one—demand reflection, don’t you think?
To that end, look for my next installment, “A Still Life in Mauve” in the next day or so. Here I’ll reflect not on Monet, as the title would suggest, but rather, the soft political pastel I’ve become since moving from Obama-lovin’ SF to Rushville, USA…..